If I ask you right now,! Are you doing justice to yourself, and do you even give yourself the emotional freedom to be sad, cry, and feel all the emotions in this whole world, 95% of you will answer me and their answer will be ‘No’. Because we are very hard on ourselves.
Sometimes we think we’re being overdramatic, we should live a certain way, we shouldn’t feel so much, people will think we’re weak, etc.
Well, you are not alone. I used to think like this too but now I give myself the freedom to feel and express myself. And honestly, it feels great to know about this part of me.
The Importance of Acknowledging Your Feelings
Most of us don’t know how powerful we are, I have met many cowards. I’m sorry if I came off so harsh, but people who don’t even care about their feelings and emotions are cowards in my eyes, plus they were the most miserable people I have ever seen in my entire life.
Believe me, angel, I don’t want you to be like those people because accepting what we feel in certain situations can help us learn many things about ourselves:
- Increase Self-Awareness: This will help you understand your triggers and reactions, leading to better self-awareness.
- Identifying Personal Values: Your relationship with yourself will improve significantly, such as knowing your boundaries, likes, dislikes, and values.
- Improving Mental Health: By preventing emotional outbursts, you will feel less anxiety, stress, and other mental health problems.
The Consequences of Suppressing Emotions
Suppressing emotions can ruin your life. Because your body is not releasing the trauma.
Your body is not releasing triggers, traumas, and all the emotions that can make you feel trapped in your own body. You will see its effect on your physical and mental health in many ways:
- Mental Health Issues: Suppressing your emotions can lead to anxiety and depression, plus you’ll feel a lot of stress in your daily life.
- Physical Health Problems: You may have high blood pressure, heart disease, and a weak immune system.
- Strained Relationships: Your inability to express emotions can lead to misunderstandings and distance in personal relationships, making you feel bad about yourself.
How to Express Your Emotions
Expressing your feelings can be a difficult task, as the opinions and rules you have built up about yourself over the years may be destroyed in the process.
You have to see yourself from a completely different perspective where you are not a machine but a weak human being. Some methods may help you on your healing journey:
- Journaling: Writing about your day, and what made you feel happy or sad. This is the most effective way to know your feelings and yourself.
- Talking to Yourself: You know yourself better than anyone else on this planet. Talking to yourself can bring a lot of positive changes in you.
- Read Books: Reading books about your feelings and emotions will help you a lot. Trust me I will write a blog on this topic in the future. But reading some of these books will help you- The Mountain Is You, 101 Essays That Will Change the Way You Think, Don’t Believe Everything You Think.
- Seeking Professional Help When Needed: You can talk to a therapist about your issues and getting a new perspective on your problems may help you.
- Talk to light-minded people: Have deep conversations with such people and it will make you feel great.
Trust Your Emotions Despite External Opinions
This is the first thing that should be imprinted on your mind so that even the whole world is against you and tells you that you should not feel this way, you are just plotting about any situation and anything, I don’t care about those people’s opinions of you. Because
- You don’t even have control over emotions, they are emotions and no one can or should teach you how you should feel a certain way.
- God has created us humans in certain ways, when something good happens we are happy, when something bad happens we cry or our mood is bad.
Oh, sweetheart! Do not feel ashamed about reacting a certain way. It’s okay, you are a human, not a robot.
How Expressing Emotions Changed My Life
Expressing my feelings brought positive changes in my life. It made me feel like I was human and realized that good things should happen to me. I have suffered so much that I don’t deserve happiness.
I used to be very hard on myself, I thought I was clingy, embarrassing, and unlucky, moreover said a lot of bad things about myself and never gave myself enough credit for how far I’ve come.
From judging every action, conversation, and reaction to simply thinking it’s okay, we are all human. It was a very difficult journey.
I was naive about the fact that not crying in any situation makes me strong and if someone is crying then that person is weak. But now maybe if someone cries in front of me, I will never judge him.
But I’m still learning so don’t worry we are all trying our best to become a better version of ourselves.
Conclusion: Embracing the Journey of Emotional Freedom
In a world where controlling your emotions makes you feel valuable in people’s eyes, you are trying to give yourself the freedom to have emotions, being vulnerable is a top-notch self-care. So you are already a king or queen in my eyes and consider this a new beginning.
Remember this is a journey – one that requires patience, self-compassion, and courage. You cannot master it very easily and fast. Because emotional freedom sometimes feels distasteful, embarrassing, and overwhelming, you meet a new vulnerable side of yourself.
I am so proud of you because you are here, You are trying to change yourself in a better way. I hope you get what you want. You matter, never forget that.